Where it all started part 2 ...

So here we are, the end of 2004 beginning of 2005 and we have hired our attorney to have the visitation changed.  (Now mind you, before I move on over the last four years she was all about wanting child support and harassing Mikes job and DHR regarding this, but never wanted to let us see the kids or agree on different visitation with lawyers, stating " You will never get more visitation, you have enough, the Judge will see that)

  At this time, Mike and I just recently got married (Oct 2004) and we were expecting baby #2 In July of 2005. Again, his ex-wife showed her demon ways, its like she couldn't settle with the fact that Mike had moved on and started a family. If you ask him, he never "loved" her. He was young and married her cause they had a baby on the way. He will be the first to admit that he cheated and he was abusive, verbally and mentally. However, she cheated and abused him as well. Apart from seeing the two older kids as often as we would have liked to, our lives were going good. AJ was growing really fast and Dakota was due at any time. We had since moved to Hamilton as we were both working there, so it was much easier then having to travel back and forth. AT the beginning of July Mike was on the phone with his ex wife arguing for the 1000 time about seeing his kids and wanting his kids to be at the hospital when the Dakota was born. (He was going to be born via C-Section on a Friday and technically it was his weekend, yet she still refused) Before hanging up, she told Mike something that I will never ever forget and I will never forgive her for. She said and I quote, "You and your wife are evil and I hope the baby you are caring dies" ( I was just a few weeks shy of being 39 weeks) Its a good thing she was 20 minutes away, cause there is no telling what I would have done had it been face to face. But, this statement would come back to haunt her or so I hope it did. I don't think she had any emotion but evil and hatred. Dakota was born via C-Section on July 14, 2005. It wasn't till he was a few hours old that he almost died on us. I (Or anyone) would feed him and he would instantly turn blue and stop breathing. The Dr rushed him back to the nursery where he was placed on every monitor possible, under a bubble and IVs all in his head. All I could think about was what that evil bitch had said just a few weeks prior. I was livid, I wanted to wrap my hands around her neck. By the grace of God, after a few days, Contacting many specialist our pediatrician found out what was wrong. He had gerd. So the next few months was going to be a struggle with the way we had to feed him, burp him and the way he had to sleep. But we made it. Things moved along and we enjoyed being newly weds with two beautiful baby boys. If only the evil villian would allow us to see the other two, life would be grand,

  Our attorney started off by sending her a modification to settle out side of court which included: Every other weekend from Friday at 6pm till Sunday at 6pm. All holidays would be swapped (IE: One year we would have Labor day, Halloween, Easter, Thanksgiving and Spring break then the next year she would have those holidays. Christmas would be split) and then we would have them the whole summer with her having them every other weekend during that time. She was not to happy with this and she made it clear, again to our attorney that she would see us in court that there is no way that the Judge would give Mike that kind of visitation, PLUS she wanted MORE child support. My issue with the whole child support from day one is that the kids never got it. They never got new clothes, when they would come to our house or to Mikes Moms house they would say that they needed this, or they couldn't go on a field trip because there was no money? Really? Where was the child support going? We would soon find out just where it was going....

  So in June of 2005, Our attorney had her served and filed the papers with the court system. He informed us we have nothing to worry about that the visitation we were asking for was Alabama Standard Visitation and he would grant that. By July 2005, we were in court and just as the layer had told us, we were granted the above visitation along with she had to notify us of any and all school functions, sports functions and basically anything they were involved in. Send us report cards and notify us when it was time to order school pictures. We thought, finally, we will be able to see the kids and be apart of their schooling and sports. Boy were we ever so wrong. From day one, she never followed these ordered and this started a long long battle in the Fayette County Court System.

  I could blog for years on what happened over the next four-five years. I will just say, we managed to go to court about 3-4 times a year. She constantly kept the kids from us, she changed her phone numbers more than any one person bathes, she would send us sports schedules, but alter the times so we would look like idiots when we showed up. She did the same thing with school plays, church events etc till we just gave up on going. We never got school pictures. ( I have no pictures unless I took them of the kids from school up until we got custody of them) She is still constantly alienating the kids from us. She is constantly telling them things so they would turn their back on Mike and I. (More will come out on what she was telling them and what was actually going on in this house when we gain custody of them, quite disgusting)  Over the years we missed out on so many important things, not because we chose to or wanted to but because we had no choice. We never knew how the kids were doing in school, as the Ex had blocked Mike from any and all things at the school (Which we later had over turned) we missed ball games, banquets, awards days, school plays, national honor society inductions etc, the list would go on and on. Not only did we miss those things with them, they missed things here as well with their brothers. They missed birthdays, school stuff, family trips etc. Out of the 98 days a year (Give or take, based on if it was an even or odd year, thats how holidays were based) we were court ordered to see the kids, we saw them almost half that, if not less. During these times she had filed many many times in court to have all or half of our visitation taken away for reasons that would soon come out that she was doing. She claimed to the courts that we were drug addicts, that by the kids coming here they miss out on school/sports activities, that 98 out of 352 days a year was to much. What? did she think she conceived the kids alone? Did she not think that we were perfectly capable of taking them where they needed to be? Answer is they were never involved in anything on weekends. Faith played school ball, which was held on weekdays and Mikey played park & rec which is also played on weekdays and anyone with a child in school knows that school functions are not on weekends. This was just another on of her 5000 excuses for us to not see the kids. In the end, as we would soon find out she didn't want them around us in fear that they would speak of what was going on over there and what they were actually doing in front of the children.

  By this time, Mike and I had bought a home in Fayette Alabama (2006) and we had completed our family. Hunter Chase was born in September 2007. Another child born, and their siblings (Faith and Mikey) were not allowed to be apart of. We will skip ahead to 2009/2010 era (Ha) Things were still unbelievably ridiculous when it came to Mike, his ex wife and seeing his children. Even though many court appearances and money spent, she was still doing as she pleased and not sending the kids when she chose not to. She has lead on to people (Mainly her family) that Mike was the bad one. That he was causing all this trouble. No, the only "trouble" that was cause was that he wanted to see his children. He paid his almost 600$ a month in child support, he wasn't a drug addict all he wanted was to be a Daddy to his kids and she took that from him. Her family took that from him. For the now 16 years that Mike and I have been together he has worked daily, long extra hot days to take care of not only this family but his ex wives family. They can never hold a job (Only long enough to get enough paid into federal so they an file income tax) they live off the government, they constantly beg or borrow money from people plus they get child support from us. Oh the joys of not being a responsible parent. But as I have said, numerous of times. Things will soon come to surface and their true colors will be exposed. By 2009, Mike and I had spent enough money on lawyers to build a house, so we decided whats the point in wasting this money, for nothing. It seems the woman always get what they ask for. It was senseless to keep fighting and just like the child support, waste of money. Its clear the judge wasn't going to punish her for not sending the kids, heck for disobeying every order he had made. Thats Fayette County for you though.... Moving on....

  In 2009, the ex finally got pregnant, all we could think was maybe just maybe this will be the break we need. She can finally move on and stop keeping the kids from us. Wishful thinking huh? It just got worse. In the beginning of 2009, she submitted papers to the court (and I will soon have ALL orders, recordings etc uploaded) that she again wanted Mikes visitation taken away because we don't force them to do 3 hours of school work a night (During the summer as well) and with the visitation that is in places, she don't see them enough. Uh, we get approximately 98 days out of 352, would you like to trade? She also filed that she wanted to have the kids last name changed from Petty to Kimbrell ... Yes, you read that right. She stripped Mike of being a Daddy now she wants to strip them from having his last name?? By now, can you not tell she is some kind of evil? So because the judge wouldn't hear her pleas, her and her husband had their last name changed to Petty (Previous blog on this) YES, a man changed his last name to his wife's EX HUSBANDS name. How sick and demented is that? Not only did they change their last name, but their two future daughters would be a Petty as well. Kind of sick, and will be weird to explain to them as they get older. But hey, to each their own right? In the summer of 2009 the kids were here for the summer (Surprising huh?) and she was harassing us non stop. She would call, text and send emails back to back where we finally just had to turn the phone off. One day. she called 24 times back to back and sent multiple emails demanding to talk to the kids (Mind you, She JUST talked to them that morning, there is no need to talk to them on the phone all day every day) **A side note about phone visitation, in an email to her mother, she stated and I quote, "There is no reason for him to speak to the kids every night, that's insane, he can talk to them once every other week" (Which by the way NEVER happened.)** but now that they are here for the summer roles are different? I think not. What is good for the goose is good for the gander. Anyways back on track. The ex sent Mike an email and said and I quote" If you do not let me speak to my daughter, we will come over there and someone is getting their ass whipped." Mike replied by saying, she knows the orders, she is not allowed here, she talked to Faith that morning and if she came the cops would be called and she would go to jail for trespassing. Well, I don't guess she believed him. They pulled in the driveway, we met them outside, the ex tried pushing her way into my house, was knocking me out of the way and even though I would have loved to have pushed her off the porch, she was pregnant and I didn't need that charges, after all, orange is NOT my color (Haha) Needless to say, we ended up in criminal court. Mike and I was found innocent and her and her husband was find, suspended jail sentence, probation and a restraining order. Came out in court, she had a recorder in her pocket and recorded the whole instance. So that just showed she came to the house for a reason and she altered the recording. What stupid people will do to get their way.....

  Later on that year November 2009 to be exact. I was coming back from a Dr visit in Jasper and decided to come home through Berry. As we are coming through, (11:30am) we see Faith walking down the street. Umm, I look at Mike and I am like its a Friday, she is supposed to be in school. So mike zips around and confronts her. Immediate we knew something was wrong by her words, the way she looked at Mike and the studering she was doing. After speaking with her, we headed back home and would just wait for her to come over that night to talk more. Well around 6:30pm that night we get a call from a Berry police officer that sweet little Faith is throwing a fit and hyperventilating telling the cops she didn't want to come over, she was scared of Mike. So the officer wanted to know what was going on. Mike politely told the Police that he had caught Faith in some lies and she knew she would be in trouble and that's why she didn't want to come and he would be at the Sheriffs office to pick her up no later than 8pm. At 8pm that night, our world stopped and everything changed. I wont go into what happened but it lead to other things that prompted us to hire an attorney and fight for custody. So this journey began.......

Will continue in a new blog, SO its not to to long. =)

Much love;
Lori